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Why self-help books, well, don't help
WARNING - Are you on a quest for authenticity or finding your bliss? STOP!! You could be making a HUGE mistake
Fighting Fair
Will My Marriage Survive?

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Why self-help books, well, don't help

We all have that friend who is constantly on the path of self discovery, growth and new beginnings.  Continuously searching for that silver bullet to turn their lives around, bring new relationships into their lives or take on the new life changing project - well this week's one anyway. However, do you also notice how their personality,  behaviours or attitudes may take a shift to the left or the right shortly after reading this month's latest release, always fleeting until the permanency of who they are returns.

WARNING - Are you on a quest for authenticity or finding your bliss? STOP!! You could be making a HUGE mistake


 
Recently, there has been a new age wave in the helping profession that I am finding both concerning and disturbing  - I like to call them “insighters”.  Those wanting to ‘spread their word’ on their meaning of life - or worse, tell you how you should live yours (for a small fee - of course).  They come under many guises such as Action Coach, Life Expert, Life Specialist, Life Mentor, Motivator, Passion Driver, Positive Energy Consultant, just to name but a few.  Sadly, all of who are unqualified, unregistered and certainly have no experience in mental health or well-being.

Fighting Fair

How to Fight Fair


I've always believed that when parents adopt the "stop fighting" stance when their children are roughhousing or arguing, prevents teaching the "how to be in relationship with others" lesson.

Parents are often overwhelmed with the noise, frequency, inequality, velocity and viciousness of the fighting.  By instructing children to "stop fighting" may feel like an appropriate response to unacceptable behaviour that receives an immediate response.

Will My Marriage Survive?

The latest research suggests that 67% of recently married couples end in divorce.  Expectantly,  second marriages, third and so on, the percentages increase exponentially.   This is a worrying statistic and appears to be on the rise  including a gender shift in infidelity with an increase of more than 45% of married women now claiming to have had an affair/s in the last 10 years. 
 
Although many factors contribute to a marriage breakdown,  people citing "excess baggage" being brought from one relationship into another, in reference to their partner, ie THEIR children, THEIR past relationships, THEIR family as a key feature in the demise of the marriage.
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